Many men enter fatherhood feeling underequipped- not sure how best to invest in their children's lives. Unfortunately, good role models seem few and far between. That's why David Drury wrote Being Dad- to share memories of how his father invested in him and his brother and how those recollections have shaped his own perspective on being a dad.
The brief, easy-to-read stories in Being Dad will not only cause you to think, they will give you concrete ideas for how you can be a dad who makes a positive difference in your children's lives.
Be a dad on purpose!
~ Max Lucado, pastor and best-selling author
Everything about this book says: read me! Dads are torn by time demands, wracked by guilt and confused by the thousand and one messages they hear. Fathers need help. This book will provide it. As a longtime friend and coworker of David Drury, I can vouch for his faith and preparation. His words will encourage men to embrace the highest call of their lives . . . fatherhood.
~ Jo Anne Lyon, General Superintendent, The Wesleyan Church
From the first word in the introduction to the last page is like getting on a fast moving train of hope, ideas, laughter, wrapped in honesty and transparency. I work with David and see the spirit of the words lived out daily. Finally, a book about being a dad while one is in the process of being one! The book for all generations.
~ Leonard Sweet, best-selling author, professor (Drew university, George Fox university), and chief contributor to sermons.com
An old publishing dictum says that men don't buy books. Tumble that dictum with Being Dad, now my first port of call into the father-son relationship. David Drury has written a masterpiece of tact and tenacity, a probing of parental interplay that offers exquisite flashes of insight and inspiration into the "my father" and "our Father" relationships.
~ Matthew Sleeth, MD, author of 24/6: Prescription for a Healthier, Happier Life
Being Dad is solid teaching-not just about being a dad, but a family. As the busy father of two adult children, the message of making time for, having fun with, and being intentionally supportive of your children is one I can never hear too often. David Drury's book makes me wish I had another arm so I could give it three thumbs up.
~ Dan Reiland, executive pastor, 12Stone church, Lawrenceville, Georgia; author of Amplified Leadership
I love this book. David Drury has painted a compelling picture of what it's like to be a good dad, using engaging stories and experience-tested principles. The fact that it's based on the real life of David and his dad makes it even more powerful. No dad is perfect, but we can all be a little better. This quick read will encourage you to be the best dad you can be!
~ Alvin Sanders, EFCA associate executive director; author of Bridging the Diversity Gap
One of the biggest issues our country faces today is fatherhood. David Drury has written a timely book on the art of being an "intentional" dad. I think dads of all backgrounds will find the wisdom presented here to be a great resource.
~ Tim Elmore, president, GrowingLeaders.com
David Drury is full of insight. over the years, I've enjoyed interacting with him, musing with him, laughing with him, and reading his work. I have been a fan of his dad for even longer. I consider him a long distance mentor not only in leadership but in fatherhood. I can hardly wait to devour this book.
~ Tom Armiger, CEO, World Hope International
In Being Dad, David Drury challenges himself and all dads of his generation to be the kind of dad God calls each to be. Using humorous and serious anecdotes, he captures some of the pivotal moments in his life when his own dad used his "dad role" to disciple David to become the man of God and dad he is today. As a longtime friend of David's dad, I can promise you the absolute authenticity of the relationship that he writes about with candor and creativity. ...
~ Nancy Sleeth, author of Almost Amish: One Womanís Quest for a Slower, Simpler, More Sustainable Life
Filled with beautifully written stories about his own dad putting in the love and effort it takes to be a good father, David Drury's Being Dad is a lovely encouragement to all dads to celebrate their children's successes and actively help them to learn from their mistakes. Being Dad is one of the most well-written, sincere, inspiring, and practical books I have ever had the honor to endorse. Would highly recommend to any father, grandfather, or dad-to-be!
~ David Wright, president, Indiana Wesleyan university
Read this book. you won't be sorry. ...you won't find more down to earth, engaging examples of godly fatherhood principles than the ones David gives you here. ... A sense of the nobility of fatherhood will begin to slip into the corners of your heart unbidden and almost unnoticed. ... In a world that seems to know less and less about the true and simple goodness of being a real father, this little book will restore your faith. Read the book. It's that good.
~ Wayne Schmidt, vice president, Wesley Seminary, Marion, Indiana; author of Ministry Velocity and Power Plays
I always pick up a book on fathering with a bit of trepidation . . . like many dads, wishing I'd done something more or different. David neither pulls punches nor takes cheap shots, but offers a hope-filled call to intentionality in "being dad."
~ Chris Seiple, president, The Institute for Global Engagement
In this simply succinct yet sagacious book, David encourages a creative but critical balance between the responsible father who disciples and disciplines and the responsive dad who listens and laughs. Both are love, and both require presence. As David reflects on these issues, he invites men to consider how they can be better dads on purpose, together, according to God's desire. ...
~ Carlos L. Malave, executive director, Christian Churches Together
David Drury shares his experiences and wisdom on a topic that is so desperately needed today. Being Dad reflects his solid upbringing, the heart of a spiritual leader and a cool dad. This book will help individuals to grow in the declining art of fatherhood.
~ Bob Whitesel, author of The Healthy Church; professor of missional leadership, Wesley Seminary, Marion, Indiana
A father-son relationship stands at the heart of Christianity and humanity. In this engaging book, David Drury explores this relationship first from a son's perspective and then from a father's view. Examining what a good dad does, Drury then illustrates the lessons behind such actions. Entertaining, witty, and thought-provoking, this fast-paced book will expand your horizons about what dads do and what being a dad means.
~ Irving A. Figueroa, lead pastor, Iglesia Wesleyana de Guaynabo; adjunct professor of leadership at Wesley Seminary, Marion, Indiana
What an inspiring, life changing resource! In a time of confusion and fear about fatherhood, David Drury hit a homerun! In Being Dad, you will find a refreshing, practical, and non-threatening book about fatherhood from the perspective of a son with an intentional dad. you will laugh, reflect, and be shaken to be better man at home with those who call you "dad."
~ Gabriel Salguero, pastor, The Lambís Church of The Nazarene, New York City; president, The national Latino Evangelical coalition
Parents, pundits, and politicians have all said we are experiencing a fatherhood deficit. David's personal and intimate reflections of the power of his father's intentional and loving investment gives me hope. As a man who experienced a similar relationship with his own father, I know this type of relationship is life-forming. As a pastor and father of two boys, I know Being Dad is not just a book but a calling.
~ Dwight Robertson, founding president and CEO, Kingdom Building Ministries
David and his brother were small boys when his Dad and I regularly met as accountability partners. ... You're about to be blessed by a baton-passing book straight from the epicenter of a rare home where this father and husband did things right. Countless lives around the world have been inspired, equipped, and launched by his Dad's unusual influence as a teacher, leader, discipler, author, and mentor; but this book is about his greatest intentional legacy. ...
~ Jim and Jerolyn Bogear, authors, Faith Legacy: Six Values to Shape Your Childís Journey and Faith Legacy for Couples: Seven Values to Shape Your Marriage
In his easy style, David moves us through stories of his dad and lessons David has learned on parenting. The importance here is on dads being present, which is the most important characteristic that all of us can model in parenting. Just being present in the lives of our children speaks volumes. We like David's style and would encourage every dad to read this book and to be present, active, and involved in the lives of their children.
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I did not write a book about being a nice person. If so, I would write about my mother. She's a much better person than my dad. If you met them both you'd probably like her a lot more than him - most people do. In fact, if I was born a girl, I would be writing a book right now called Being Mom. But I'm not a woman, and I can't become a mother. So I'm not struggling with how to be a mom. I'm wondering how to be a good dad. If you're a man, I bet you are too. Even if you don't have kids, this subject is probably important to you as you seek to intentionally invest in the next generation. My dad was a great dad, but he made a lot of mistakes, and he's still making them. I don't agree with all he did or does today. There are a lot of things about him I'd rather not adopt into who I am. Making those kinds of decisions is all a part of becoming your "own" man. The reality is that you don't have be a superhero to be a good dad. Intentionality is 99 percent of successful fatherhood, and apathy is the reason for every father who fails at the job. It's not about your skills, education, or upbringing. It's about being a dad on purpose.
I never mention my dad's name in this book. I don't need to. To those who don't know him, the stories and ideas found here stand on their own and could be applied to your own father, or the way you would like to be as a father. To those who do know him, these stories and ideas only add to the remarkable figure you have heard of or know well. To me, he is simply, and incredibly, Dad.